3EB Ink - A Family Affair
Jeff Pigorsch shares the story of his love of 3eb and the father-son bond it has helped to grow with 3EB Lifestyle.
Amanda Birlew: Hi Jeff, I’m Mandie. I was so glad you contacted me about the 3eb ink you and your son share. Tell me about yourself and your love of 3eb.
Jeff Pigorsch: So my son and I have been fans since the first album as his mother and I were splitting up when it came out. I found myself drawn to the beat and the vocals as the stories in the album hit home with me in many ways. Jumper is how I felt at times, Losing a Whole Year was my emotional loss, but the song Motorcycle Drive By for some reason to this day makes me cry and feel so much about my life at that time and the loss and yet the gain I was getting. “...Never felt so alone and I, I never felt so alive...” was the thing that made me feel I could move forward. I could survive. So that album got played over and over and over and my son at the time who was two learned to sing along with me and enjoy the music and singing loud in the car. It became the thing we did all the time as he would tell me to play it. He learned to love that album more than anything, same as it helped heal me - it helped him understand his dad. So as we go forward about 16 years and he is turning 18, he decided he wanted his first tattoo, so I said I would pay for it and he could choose - that tattoo was not the band symbol, but a different one. For his 19th birthday, he wanted another and I said maybe we should get one together to symbolize us as father and son.
He liked the idea as much as I did. We are both big into golfing and that idea was kicked around and then sitting and talking he smiled and just flipped the picture on his phone and I said absolutely. So we went and had the tattoos done together here in La Crosse, WI where we live. At this time, we had not seen the band ever and last year out of nowhere we saw they were playing the EAA airshow in Oshkosh and that was his 20th birthday present. That was our first and to this date only concert. We were able to get up to the front about 10 feet away and just enjoy the show. The one moment that blew us away was the playing of Motorcycle Drive By as he knows the significance of the song to me and over time it has been the song I sing when tradition hits, as it makes me feel I can move forward. We recorded some of it with us singing and both of us having tears streaming down our faces (no pictures of that shot), it was one of those incredible moments that felt like we were the only ones there. We got close enough to show our tattoos to the band, but never knew if they saw them. I just booked VIP tickets for the 10/15 show in Wisconsin in Dells and can't wait to be there and enjoy the show and maybe they will see the ink live.
AB: Okay, you’ve sparked some questions, Jeff, how has that album helped you?
JP: At the time, the album had been out a year or so. I listened to it probably one or two times a day. I joke that I lived a country song because in a 40 day period, I lost everything. My wife wanted a divorce, my new house that we were building I had to move out due to the split (never did sleep in the master bedroom, lol), I lost my job at an auto dealership and my car was tied to that, so that was gone too. I found depression easily overtook me and that is something I had never dealt with before. I lost about 45 pounds in a 2 month period (guess when you only eat once on Sunday and once on Thursday each week that will happen). It was bad. The moment that it helped/hit me most is returning from Madison, WI after celebrating my sons second birthday, it was a terrible storm that day, bad enough most cars had pulled over, but I was jamming to the music I love and getting home no matter what. I remember saying out loud between How’s it Going to Be and Thanks a Lot, God show me a sign that this tunnel is almost over, that I have survived it and I can move on as I cannot take much more. I turned west on the interstate by Tomah, WI and about two miles in an opening in the sky right in front of me appeared, the sun blinded me as it was not something that you just drove up on - it just appeared. I remember saying again out loud, “Thank you Lord, thank you.” I was balling my eyes out and singing the rest of the way home with my two year old son in the backseat asleep. The next day I was offered a new job and life started for me again, it had stopped; I had become a shadow and nothing more and again I was Jeff. I always found the painful lyrics made me cry deep inside - the type of crying you do to cleanse a painful memory. The happy fun parts made me reveal in my son, in my family, and in my ability to always survive.
AB: Have other albums that have been therapeutic?
JP: Not sure therapeutic is the right word for other albums, I have always found a song or a few songs that help with the time in my life. An album would come out and it would get me feeling good or maybe reflective at times. With Blue I had met my second wife and all the songs just made me think of life again, of family, and the fun times. Each time frame always brought me back to the original EP. I guess each album always hits home with current feelings to me. My life seems to mirror the mood of them. My life experiences are mirrors of times the guys are growing up and being in the world, as well? Not sure, but I still am so happy to have found the music that truly inspires me.