Interview: Kelly Comer
This week’s Expert of the Week is another Comer Girl…youngest sister, Kelly. The love she has for her sisters, along with the way they all have bonded over Third Eye Blind, is really something special.
Here’s to many more concerts and, who knows, maybe one day they’ll get that song!
Janelle Morrow: If you got to have a sit down (non-date) meal and conversation with any member of the band, who would you choose?
KC: Okay, if I had any control over how it played out, I would probably want to put all their names in a hat and draw a name out and just be surprised and have it be spontaneous. Not a single name that would be drawn would disappoint me because I would love to have conversations with any of them! I find it really hard to choose just one of them, only because I think they all would have killer stories to tell and honestly, I’d be happy to hang out and chat with any of them. I mean, if you really think about it, they are all a part of creating this amazing music that we can all connect over and find meaning in and that's how a lot of us have met and made friendships is because of this band. Plus, I like to hear the how’s and why’s of people's pasts that led them to where they are today. I would probably ask them what was one of the craziest moments they have ever had since being in the band? Do they have weird rituals before a show? Is any one of them superstitious? Biggest heartbreaks they've had? But I think I do have a habit of getting side tracked and would probably end up asking something random about what their favorite dog breed is, if they like Wes Anderson movies (because little things like that fascinates me about people) or maybe I’d talk to Kryz about him breaking his arm and then tell him about the time I broke my foot as a kid trying to parachute with a plastic bag, who knows! But it would be interesting!
JM: What's your favorite song(s) to hear live? Why?
KC: Hands down, Wounded! I have now been to four shows and every single time that song comes on there is just a certain energy that happens with the fans. The band isn't the only one singing and performing, I’ve noticed how much this song resonates with the majority of the people in the crowd (including me) and it almost presents this opportunity for them to sing their hearts out not only with their favorite band but also the person or thing that wounded them. It really is an amazing thing to witness. I love the energy that is present at all of the shows, but something just changes when this song comes on. It’s fun to try and just watch it but I can’t even sit still when it comes on.
If you found a magic Third Eye Blind Lamp, and a semi-charmed genie popped out, and you could make three Third Eye Blind related wishes, what would they be?
KC: I’m probably going to sound really cheesy when I say this but I do truly mean it… I would give one wish to each of my two sisters. We refer to Third Eye Blind as our “sister band” and that's because they are each of ours favorite band. I first heard Third Eye Blind when I was about 14, on the radio. I would sneak into my oldest sister Krissy’s room, when I was a teenager, and listen to her cds that she’d order from Columbia House (remember them?) on her bright orange cd player with 70’s style flowers all over it. So, with my one wish that I’d have left, I would probably want one of two things and I’d be happy with either. My first wish would be for them to write a song about me and my sisters “The Comer Girls.” We kind of had an interesting upbringing and each one of us have our stories to tell, we were raised super religious, kicked out of a religion. We each have our battle scars, heart breaks, defining moments, and even though we may fight like crazy, as my dad always tells us, “you kids circle the wagon”…meaning we are extremely loyal. Plus, I don't know that any of us will be able to have kids and I’ve been thinking a lot about legacies and leaving behind things so our story doesn't get forgotten. I think that would be a good one to leave, a song telling our story. However that is my frivolous wish, a more realistic one would be to work for the band. I’m not quite sure what I would want to do, I know that I am good with people and I LOVE to talk to people about their stories and why they do what they do. I love to learn, and honestly, it’s always been my dream to travel and just have stories at the end of the day. Plus, who the hell wouldn't want to work for their favorite band? In all honesty though, my sisters have always been my rock, and I know I haven’t always been the easiest person to love. So, my priority would be to share anything I’d have with them and to see them smile, it makes me the happiest.
Tell me about your first 3EB show. What was it like?
KC: My very first Third Eye Blind show was at the Fillmore in San Francisco with my sisters and it was so amazing and exciting. It was mine and Kim’s first show and it seemed like a little smaller of a venue, I have really bad eyes (I have to zoom my camera in to see better sometimes) and I just remember singing along and getting excited and ending the night with my face hurting from smiling so much. My sister Kim kept getting up and dancing and I remember getting frustrated at her because I wanted to see the show and she kept blocking my view, so I kept telling her to sit down so I could see, and she just wasn’t having it. Her being the good big sis, she switched me spots and danced in the seats behind me, so I could see. I think at one point she was even one of the annoying people standing and dancing where she wasn't supposed to be, and I may or may not have joined her, and were quickly told by the ushers to sit down. In fact, to this day she will say her piece of advice to people going to their show is to not give a crap what people tell you but to dance as much as you want and not care… I'm pretty sure it’s a tiny jab at me, but don’t worry, it’s now our inside joke. I got my very first hoodie and t-shirt that night and I still have and cherish them both. It was a great night! We had to drive back from San Francisco to Petaluma and listed to Third Eye Blind the entire way and kept singing along to their music. It was perfect!
You’re trapped in an elevator for 1 hour with Stephan Jenkins and he offers to play you two songs… what would they be?
KC: If I were trapped with Stephan Jenkins in an elevator for an hour and he offered to play two songs I would definitely ask him to play Good Man from “Out Of The Vein.” It’s one of my all-time favorite songs by 3EB, I have listened to it over and over and have never gotten sick of it and honestly don't think I can. I can just relate to it so much because I feel like I’ve been there, I feel like it’s a simple thing to want but just such a complex thing to achieve because of all these other things in life that happen. I think it just covers the basic sense of wanting something simple but realizing all the other factors that come into play don't make it so easy. The second song I would request would probably be Sharp Knife from “Ursa Major” because I can listen to it on repeat. I love singing along to it because sometimes when I’m just going through the motions of life, and my depression has a hold of me. In that feeling of numbness I think what I need is a “sharp knife” to just swing through it all (metaphorically) and just wake me the fuck up so I can see past the tricks depression can play on my mind and realize that's not really how I feel, I’m in the grasp of a low. SNAP OUT OF IT! I do have my more obvious answers like The Background, Motorcycle Drive By, or Wounded but I think it would be really cool to see the other ones because I haven’t yet, and I would LOVE IT! Plus, who knows, maybe the elevator would be stuck longer, and I’d be able to request an extra song or two.
How many performances have you seen or watched approximately?
KC: I have seen four shows at this point, but I plan to see as many as I can afford to attend in the future. My two sisters are my best friends and we’ve always bonded over music, road trips, and trying to pick apart the meanings of lyrics, especially with Third Eye Blind. All three of our favorite bands is Third Eye Blind and three of the four shows I’ve been to have been with the two of them. I’ve seen them in San Francisco (2016), Berkeley (2017), Sacramento (2017), and Santa Ana (2017). I have loved the band since I was about 14 years old (I’m now 34) but I hadn’t been able to see a show until 2016 and it was so exciting! Funny enough the last three shows were all in 2017. On a side note this last year has been a very difficult one for me with over four surgeries and various procedures in the span of about 14 months. One of the things that has kept me going was the fact that I had the shows to look forward to! I’m honestly so appreciative of all the people I have met whether on the group and via social media or in person for being a source of support! I love hearing everyone's stories and look forward to meeting you all at future events!